The Art of Being Content

My heart has been burdened for single Christian girls lately.

In a world of social influencers and social media, being a Christian single girl can be a confusing place.

On one hand, you have people telling you that you need a career and that you need to "make your own way" in this world.

On the other hand, you have (mostly Christians!) people telling you that the only way you will find contentment and God's perfect will for your life is by marrying young and having 13 children.

Neither is the case.

There is no mystical, magical will of God. It's not this ever-elusive, escaping thing that has to be chased down. And if you make one wrong move, it's gone forever.

Do you know what God's will is for every Christian? To glorify him. To love him. To obey his commandments. To love others.

The rest will fall into place.

Are you single?

Be content.

Are you married?

Be content.

Do you have kids?

Be content.

You don't have kids?

Be content.

In whatsoever state you are in, be content.

If you are a kid, enjoy being a kid.

If you are a teen girl, enjoy being a teen girl. Dating and courtship and marriage and babies will come soon enough- and once it comes, you will forever have responsibility and care and work- and you will need to figure out how to be content then, too. When you are a teen girl, you don't have all of those yet, so don't bemoan the fact that you are single. Enjoy your single years. Serve God with your whole heart. Don't pine away, wishing for things not yet come. Serve in the church. Be a mother's helper. Learn new skills. Accomplish things. Become smarter. Never stop learning. Love your parents. Love your siblings. Love God, first and foremost, and eventually, he will send the right guy your way. But until that time comes, enjoy your life.

One of the biggest desires of my heart, as a mom, is that my girls enjoy their lives so much that it's going to take a VERY special man to win their hearts. They know their worth, they know they are loved, they know they are special, and they know that they are worth waiting for.

What I don't want is them pining away- unhappy with their single years. That's also not what God wants.

If you are married- enjoy being married. Stop comparing your husband to every other man, and just love him for who he is. Embrace his strengths, ignore his weaknesses. We all have both.

If you are able to have kids, enjoy them. Be content with as many or as little as God gives you. Don't compare your kids to other kids. Love them for who they are.

It's great to be a single young lady.

It's great to be a married young lady.

Neither is better or worse than the other.

Embrace your life, your calling, your situation in life- and just serve God with your entire being.

That's where his perfect will can be found.